tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6578792.post1276070616780730010..comments2024-03-28T01:15:47.815-07:00Comments on Jon's Jail Journal (by Shaun Attwood): Jonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02894626355758041112noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6578792.post-9298929786560810232012-11-12T15:32:59.097-08:002012-11-12T15:32:59.097-08:00Andrea, First, I send you hope that you keep worki...Andrea, First, I send you hope that you keep working through and finding what triggers your anger. I know that you can learn from this and come out of it a better person. One of the many things that my life has taught me so far is that while I am not responsible for the abuse that happened to me, I am responsible for how I treat other people (because of that abuse) for the rest of my life. I had to make a clear and firm decision that it all ended with me. Because someone else inflicted pain on me, is no excuse to inflict pain on someone else. As the years have passed, I found that it is a much more comfortable way to live and I even learned to love who I am. I hope you can find that kind of inner peace too! Sincerely, VanessaMikehttp://michaelxhct.livejournal.com/1228.html&k=ljdomsess.michaelxhct.livejournal.com&v=v1:u51729593:s4:t1347174000:ge531b1d7b022408c25cc6eb33e7e926ce50ab956//1noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6578792.post-37862283221698438012008-12-09T09:22:00.000-08:002008-12-09T09:22:00.000-08:00Andrea,First, I send you hope that you keep workin...Andrea,<BR/><BR/>First, I send you hope that you keep working through and finding what triggers your anger. I know that you can learn from this and come out of it a better person.<BR/><BR/>One of the many things that my life has taught me so far is that while I am not responsible for the abuse that happened to me, I am responsible for how I treat other people (because of that abuse) for the rest of my life. I had to make a clear and firm decision that it all ended with me. Because someone else inflicted pain on me, is no excuse to inflict pain on someone else. As the years have passed, I found that it is a much more comfortable way to live and I even learned to love who I am.<BR/><BR/>I hope you can find that kind of inner peace too!<BR/><BR/>Sincerely,<BR/>VanessaVanessahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07983559276348982926noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6578792.post-35863671006771939272008-12-08T10:20:00.000-08:002008-12-08T10:20:00.000-08:00Andrea,I'm glad you had a nice visit with Shaun. ...Andrea,<BR/><BR/>I'm glad you had a nice visit with Shaun. <BR/><BR/>Experiencing violence is never easy to overcome. And for women especially, limited by size and strength. It seems strange to be punish for defending ourselves. Thought it is probably for doing it with violence.<BR/><BR/>I was perplexed to have received punches in my stomach while pregnant from my boyfriend and father of the child. You wonder why someone so close can harm you this way. It happened close to 10 years ago and still bothers me. It is like dormant anger inside me. Perhaps anger is something that never goes away but can be controlled, tamed and observed.<BR/><BR/>I sympathize with you and the ordeal you must of been through and wish you well. Writing and sharing about your experience is wonderful. Thank you.<BR/><BR/>IsabelleAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6578792.post-56481795461546635962008-12-08T05:10:00.000-08:002008-12-08T05:10:00.000-08:00andreayou can do it, there's going to be hard time...andrea<BR/><BR/>you can do it, there's going to be hard times and struggles ahead but it seems like you want to do it and you have the strength of mind<BR/><BR/>good luck<BR/><BR/>ghostAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6578792.post-70246204771239923542008-12-07T06:56:00.000-08:002008-12-07T06:56:00.000-08:00I'd definitely have to agree that once meeting and...I'd definitely have to agree that once meeting and knowing Shaun as he is now, it's so difficult to imagine the person he says he used to be. I've read the book chapters and still can't put it together either. Great to know your life does not have to be defined by a bad past, and the most convincing argument for that is people who HAVE overcome and are now living fulfilled lives! And I've been privileged to meet and be friend with so many of them. Don't give up.Sue O. (aka Joannie, SS)https://www.blogger.com/profile/02495926658531459181noreply@blogger.com